Reasonable dating expectations
QUIZ: Are You Accidentally Destroying Your Love Life?
You begin interacting with the thoughts in your head rather than with the person in front of you.
From that point forward, it’s not easygoing and natural, it’s her measuring if she is getting closer or further from her goal. Everyone recognizes when someone has an agenda, it’s just something our intuition picks up on and it immediately puts us off.
Think about how you feel when someone approaches you and tries to sell something.
When asked, many guys will say they don’t know why they were suddenly turned off…they just were. Is it really out of the blue without cause or provocation? The reason it’s so hard to pinpoint and articulate is because it’s extremely subtle.
When a woman worries and needs constant reassurance, it comes from a feeling of, “I am not OK” and the feeling beneath that is fear.
Either you notice that he starts to pull away and seems less engaged (commonly known as “the fade away”), or he just vanishes (a phenomenon known as “ghosting”). When a girl loses interest in a guy after a few dates, she can usually pinpoint the reason.
Maybe he was too desperate, not intellectually stimulating, too quiet, too loud, too boring, too boisterous–she usually knows exactly what it is that turned her off and can give a reason as to why she doesn’t want to continue dating him if asked. A guy can go on a few amazing dates with a girl and find himself suddenly and inexplicably put off by her.
Rather than trying to learn who he is and what he’s about, you look at his behavior and the things he says as a means to measure how he feels about you…
and whether you’re getting closer or further away from your goal of having a relationship with him.